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We're so happy you found us! We hope you will find your visit an enjoyable place to learn about the many different aspects of a young girls life and death. Even more importantly, hopefully we will all find ways to make changes in our justice system, educational system and media presence, that will help to make sure this never happens to another child and to another family.
We here at Justice for Shanda Sharer, are an interactive group of people that enjoy sharing our philosophies, opinions, thoughts and ideas with others. We are a passionate group of people at times, at times we have very different opinions and morals. Though debates are not only welcome, but encouraged, we do expect an atmosphere of friendly decorum.
1) There will be absolutely no attacks, namecalling or harrassment from one blogger to another. As mentioned above, we encourage debates and are well aware that many times they will be very heated. Even so, as a member here, with the privilege of posting, comes the responsibility of being respectful.
2) Justice for Shanda Sharer will not be held liable for any copyrighted material a blogger may post in the blogs and forums here. The blogger will be held liable for anything he/she chooses to display at this website.
3) As the owner of this site, I want to make very clear, that there will be absolutely no bashing of Shanda's Family on these boards. I, and most of our members here, are firm supporters of Shanda, as well as Shanda's family members.
4) If a problem arises, please come directly to me, I'm a pretty fair person and will always make the choices I feel are just and fair for one and all.
5) You are all welcome to post images on the forum pages. I do want to be clear from the beginning that death pictures or autopsy photo's are not allowed here. Shanda's family visits the site on occasion and I hope everyone will keep that in mind when posting.
I hope that we can all continue to do great things in Shanda's name. For those that have made the move with me, Thank You for your neverending support and friendship. For those that we've yet to meet, I hope you will join us and together we can make the world a better place for our children.
The Dead Can Not Cry Out For Justice; It Is The Duty Of The Living To Do So For Them." ~ Lois McMaster~
My name is Sue and I am a widow with one adult daughter and two grandsons. I'm very family oriented and am the oldest of all of my siblings. My own parents were divorced when I was 4 years old, back when divorce was not a common thing and there were not support groups.
Unfortunately my biological mother was awarded custody and my childhood was not a very happy one. There was a lot of responsibility laid on my shoulders at a very young age as my mother went on to have 2 learning disabled boys and another divorce. In retrospect, I now know that she too must have had a mental illness of some kind. She was very abusive towards me, both mentally and physically. But again, back in those days mental illness wasn't discussed, and neither was child abuse. We were very poor and lived in the ghetto.
When I was with my mother, I was Brenda, With dad, I was Sue. In retrospect, I kind of felt like two different people. My behavior was very different when with them.
My father on the other hand, was wonderful. My hero even now. He never failed to pick me up on Friday evenings after he got off work for the weekend. He too remarried and soon after I had a new sister. Although my father was very loving towards me, my stepmother didn't like me from day 1. So dad and I spent our weekends with his brother and his family a lot of the time.
There were many times that I would stay with my Aunt and Uncle for days, even weeks, during my childhood. I adored them both, especially my Aunt, and still do. Around the age of 5, I began to be molested by a family member. The molestation continued until I was 14. I never told anyone until I was in my late 20's. Even then only the few people that I trusted to keep my secret.
My father and stepmother lived in a nice neighborhood and both worked in factories. So my life on the weekends and on summer breaks was very different than the life I lived with my mother. They divorced when I was around 10.
When I was 12 my father married a third time to a really nice lady with a little girl 4 years younger than I and a set of twins. But I no longer trusted people, and became very defiant, and finally ended up leaving home when I was 15 yrs. old. They were together and very happy for 34 years. Luckily after about 5 years, my stepmother and I became closer. My father died in 2005 and I still am part of the family. She is my mom and I love her to death.
When I was in my early teens I became very rebelious. Full of hatred and self loathing, I began to run around with the other misfits and getting into trouble. Very much like Laurie Tackett in that respect. I relate to Laurie in many ways and have wondered if my father had given up on me, if I myself wouldn't have ended up in prison.
I began dabbling in drugs and drinking a lot. I'm got into the hippie/biker lifestyle for about 5 years. Looking back, it's a wonder I'm alive. It wasn't until I was 19 and took myself to see a therapist that my life began to get better. She said something I will never forget. She asked, "Your mother pretty much destroyed your childhood didn't she?". Of course I quickly agreed. She then asked me, "So are you going to allow what she did to you destroy your entire life?"
Something clicked inside me and I thought, "Hell no!" I cleaned up my act a lot, went back to school, got a job and my own place. Then I met my first husband. He bought into the business I managed. We had a very disfunctional and violent relationship for 10 years. He was an alcoholic and still is. 5 years into the relationship I had my daughter. 5 years later, I divorced him.
But I still couldn't get off the self destructing mode all the way. I jumped into another marriage 7 months later. You guessed it! Another alcoholic with a violent streak. I stayed in that marriage until he died in July of 2006. Although, the last 5 years of our marriage we lived apart and dated. Yes, we put the FUNK in disfunctionable.
After the separation I began to write a lot and research the child abuse statistics and mental illness. I began writing my Representatives and Senators. I would write the newspapers about problems in the community. I mentored a few teenage girls. I realised how easy it is to do something, to do anything to contribute to society. My causes are crimes against children and Domestic Violence.
It was during my second marriage that I read about Shanda. I followed the case in the news and for some reason this case grabbed ahold of me and I've been following it ever since. The person I identified with from the beginning was Jacque, Shanda's mother. Shanda was 12, my daughter was 10. I kept finding myself stepping into Jacque's shoes.
When Toni Lawrence was released from prison early I was angry and annoyed. Again my thoughts turned to Jacque. But the most I really did was talk to friends or family about it. I wasn't actively trying to do anything but keep her in my prayers.
When Hope was released 15 years early I was livid. Again I watched and read Jacque's interviews. Watched how all those years later there she was, fighting the good fight, trying to keep her child's murderers in prison where they were, serving the sentence they received in a court of law.
Then in 2007 when I went to Crime Library and read David Lohr's report on Melinda trying to get her sentence overturned I thought my head would explode. I could no longer just sit by and watch another injustice against Shanda and her family. So I made a petition and started reading and posting on a few Shanda Forums.
Shortly thereafter I started Justice for Shanda Sharer.
That's where I'm at in my life now. I love life again. I've met so many wonderful, caring people that like me, are trying to contribute in some way. They have restored my faith in humanity. Yes we have major problems with violence, our economy is in the cellar, there's a lot of bad guys out there. But there are more good guys! So many people eager to help in whatever way they are able.
Life is what you make it. You only get one, so please, smile and take your neighbor some cookies! You might just make a new friend! You'll definately get a smile!